As mentioned in last week's #nobodyshame blog article, your Miss Fashion vs Beauty 2013 and #missFVB beloved director were guests of Simply Bare Cardiff (@Simply_Bare).
After being test-bunnies for their massage treatments (after all we want to be sure we recommend you good quality stuff!) we definitely recommend everyone to pay them a visit and enjoy a treatment to a 10% discounted price by using the code missFvB (Offer expires: Friday 31st October 2014).
While enjoying her own, our MissFVB director took the opportunity to ask @Simply_Bare some questions on the relationship between beauty treatments and confidence!
This video was filmed for this particular purpose only. Video participants agreed to be recorded.
In this weeks Q&A, we wondered what was your body insecurity trigger. The reason for asking this question is that one way of attacking the problem of body-shaming is to make the world more aware of what are hurtful body-messages and what is the source of decreased body confidence. Like pinpointed in last weeks video, body confidence does not only fight against one's negative view of one's own body, but also helps limit the need to put others' bodies down.
Speaking as a member of the modelling industry, I have experienced both positive and negative focus on my looks and body. The positive comments often comes from friends and other supporters (of whose consistent support and compliments are the most important source to my confidence). The negative comments directed towards myself and most other people I know have been from negative key-board warriors - people who attempts to voice an opinion on behalf of a larger population.
"Yuck, your skin is too pale"
Ethnicity criticism
"I thought models should have flat bellies?"
The latter is my area of insecurity from the day my body started to transform from that of a tomboy to a woman with curves. Last weekend I had a photoshoot where my stomach was anything but a flat washing board. It cracked my confidence for days. Why? Because I immediately began to worry what people would say when/if they got to see the photos. People often think media and television is the reason for high body expectations (and it is to some degree) - but personally I believe body criticism begins with media's audience. The opinion formers. The voices of which the media industry listens to. The sources of judgement. What do you think? What is your body insecurity trigger?
Images found on Google commenting on public bodyshaming.
I would suggest one way to achieve #nobodyshame is to start practising the saying "don't say anything if you don't have anything nice to say". We need to end bodyshaming of all kinds of sizes, weights, genders and looks and learn to accept ourselves and others for who we are instead (and let us be who we are as well). That being said, wouldn't spa treatments, which makes you comfortable in your own skin, be a fun and helpful way to start?
Miss Fashion vs Beauty is a competition that focuses more on attitude, personality, behaviour and philanthropy than looks. For this very reason, it's been an honour to be fronting this competition for the past year. Soon I will hand over the title to next year's beautiful (on the inside and outside) queen, yet, until then we will look closer at ways to fight bodyshaming!
What is your body insecurity trigger? Until next time,
Your Miss Fashion vs Beauty 2013, @ChristinaQvam xxx
